Pain is often a big part of the dying occasion and it gets a lot of the attention in the psyche. Pain sucks. If you have or have had much pain, you know. It'll suck the attention right out of you. Be clear with your own body that you mean it no pain and that you don't want it to present a bunch of pain to you. Then carry on. As to your loved ones with pain........ it is their business like it or not. Our bodies are ours to choose but the conditioning has been so greatly the opposite. Pain is usually given to us by God or others or unknown factors, so it appears to be a thing that happens to us. Inflicition is very popular as a drama gambit in the Game. I can feel inflicted about practically everything that exists. I often complain out loud to those who love me. Not about them but about the general inflictions in the day to daze business of Creation. I highly recommend conscious complaining. You can take it too far and continue to believe in it all, but in the fine art of complaining, you can let it rip like an old fashion fart. To air is human; to hold it in is Divine. Consider letting go of swinging from Divine.